WHAT? SIERRA, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU? WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT?
Let me explain.
T and I do not have a perfect marriage. At all!
We do a lot of healthy, right things as a couple, and we do some not-so-perfect things when it comes to marriage.
T and I disagree on a lot of aspects in life. Does this mean that we disagree and fight and bicker all of the time? Absolutely not. But it does mean that we have our own interests, beliefs and ideas about things. I think it is important in a relationship to have separate lives. I see, so often, so many couples, who do EVERYTHING together. And while I don't think that's a bad thing, that's simply not how T Money and I work. We disagree on a lot of things. For example,
He loves to go hunting. I, however, do not.
He loves to rock climb. I cannot stand heights and am not interested in that.
I love long walks. He doesn't understand the point of them.
I like to read in bed. He likes to watch football on the couch.
He likes spicy food. I hate it.
I want to write novels. He wants to start businesses.
I want to see broadway plays weekly. He wants to see them yearly. :)
You get the point.
We have our own opinions which helps us be able to be confident in who we are, as individuals, which, ultimately, helps us in our relationship. Disagreeing on things and having different hobbies allows us to broaden our horizons and connect in other ways. Of course, we have SO many things that we have in common, which is important. but we don't have to have everything in common. And we can disagree. And I think that is just fine. :)
But, one thing that I think we both agree on is how much he loves his glasses. (And look how cute he looks!). I am grateful for my husband's support, despite our differences of personality, ideas, and upbringing. And, what a hunk.
He got these glasses from GlassesShop.com. T Money's glasses areprescription glasses , but there are both optical glasses and sunglasses available.
Two years. T Money and I have been married for two years. Where in the world does time go? It is amazing how fast time flies. The second year of marriage was even better than the first. I feel like we didn't really get a "hold" on things until this past year. As always, we are still learning new things everyday about us, marriage, and life. I am grateful to have this hilarious, patient, loving man by my side. I mean, what kind of husband writes this sweetest letter to his wife?!
Pictures from our perfect wedding day. July 27, 2013.
Last year, I interviewed him with these questions on our anniversary. I thought that it would be fun to ask him the exact same questions (with a few added at the end!). It was so funny to see his responses. I had to probe him to get a little more in-depth responses. He's really good at having two word answers. Typical male. ;). He was currently wandering around the house doing dance moves while answering these questions. He is ridiculous. I married a twelve year old. My responses are in parentheses. Note: These are his responses EXACTLY. I didn't change one word.
What is your full name? Tell me a little bit about yourself.
2014: Mark Tanner Charlesworth. Age 23. Married. 6'3''. Incredibly Good Looking with chiseled muscles.
2015: Mark Tanner Charlesworth. My name is Tanner and I like to party. I like to do stuff outdoors.
What is your current job?
2014: I'm in school full time during the year, but I am the Assistant Race Director for Epic Relays."
2015: The Color Run. But I'm kind of on the market, so if you know of anything, let me know! I am also a wellness advocate for Doterra. (If you need oils, let him know!!!)
What are you going to school for?
2014:I am getting my Accounting degree with a pre-dental minor, with the goal of going to Dental School. My dream school for dental is OHSU in Portland.
2015: Marketing and Business Management. (He has, clearly, changed his major and we have decided together to take a different route for his career! Only two more years of his undergraduate. We got this! Ha.)
What was your first impression of Sierra (me)?
2014: I thought, 'This girl is crazy, but she's pretty.' You made me play a stupid envelope game. I didn't know anyone there. It was the most stupid game ever. (I thought the same thing about him)
2015: Who is this girl? She's a bossy pants. (hahahaha)
How accurate do you now think your impression of Sierra was? On which counts do you think you were totally wrong and on which were you right?
2014: Yep, she is crazy. But also pretty. (Ya win some, ya lose some).
2015: She's still bossy, but mostly in a good way. (Oh gee, thanks.)
How many kids do you do want?
2014: No more than 4. But I am not ready for kids; a wife is enough to handle for now." (HEY!)
2015: 2 at the least, 4 at the most. I want boys and girls. One girl and one boy sounds perfect to me.
What is your favorite food?
2014: Pizza. Fire baked pizza, specifically. My favorite restaurant is Pizzeria 712 because, well, it's the most amazing pizza in the world." (Seriously…I'm drooling now just thinking about it.)
2015: Pizza and hot wings. But I'm kind of a food nerd, so my tastes vary drastically. (All he ever wants is Pizza. Always. It's so annoying.)
What do you fear the most?
2014: Bees. F*** Bees. (It's the funniest thing in the world. He will jump off cliffs, go bungee jumping, but he sees a Bee and FREAKS).
2015: Bees. F Bees. (LITERALLY THE EXACT SAME RESPONSE AS LAST YEAR. He hates them so bad. It's so funny.)
What are your 5 favorite hobbies?
2014: Rock climbing, fishing, watching/playing sports, reading, playing music.
2015: Fishing, rock climbing, hunting, playing sports, watching sports. (Ha. Seems familiar.)
What is your dream vacation and why?
2014: "I have a lot of dream vacations, right now it's Thailand because I want to hold a tiger. And they have really good rock climbing."
2015: Croatia. No, I don't know. Alaska. So I can shoot a freaking big bear.
Describe yourself in 5 adjectives.
2014: Loud, Energetic, Awesome, Intelligent, Athletic. "(He could make a list of fifteen, cocky son of a….. I could add some words, too…)
2015: Awesome, Energetic, Funny, Cool, The Coolest. (Still humble…)
What is your favorite movie of all time and why?
2014: Top Gun. Because my grandpa was a fighter pilot for the Navy. I watched it so much as a little kid, I wore the VHS out."(Plus he looks exactly like Iceman/Val Kilmer! Seehere. It's creepy.)
2015:Top Gun. Because my grandpa was a fighter pilot so I grew up watching it. (haha exact same answer.)
Can you give me a mock session of how you would discuss sex education when you have a child?
2014: I will give my sons the same advice my father gave me: 'Keep the pecker in the pants, boy.' My daughters will wear chastity belts. That's it. Sierra can do the rest. (Awesome. Thanks, babe.)
2015: Keep the pecker in the pants. [Smiles. Shrugs.] And, it would depend on the child. (Clearly he needs to expand his sex education knowledge and vocabulary.)
If you won the lottery, what are the first three things you would do/buy?
2014:
1. Build a house with land.
2. Buy a tiger and/or leopard…maybe some wolves (he is grinning at me right now)
3. Live off of the interest and not let anyone know I was rich. My kids will earn their keep.
2015
1. Pay off my house.
2. Start a french fry food truck business (he is quite determined to do this).
3. Put away the rest.
If your house was on fire and you had a chance to grab only five things before leaving, they would be…
2014: My wife, my dog, my guns, my guitars, and my laptop.
2015: My wife because she is going to be passed out panicking (Rude! But true), Saylor the dog would get herself (she would follow us out.) (Again, true.) So I would get my guns, my laptop…that's kind of all I would grab. There's not enough time to grab five things.
If you believed in reincarnation, what would you come back as?
2014: That's simple…my spirit animal clearly is a Jaguar." (I am dying right now. What a nerd).
2015: A freaking awesome big cat like a lion or a leopard. (He loves big cats.)
Best Decision you ever made?
2014: The haircut I got today. Just kidding. Marrying my wife. That's a trick question. I can't say anything else, but I wouldn't say anything else. Cause I loooooove you (He sang that to me. awwww).
2015: Um…moving to Portland. Because I would never have met my wife if I didn't move there.
And….I am going to add a couple of questions every year.
What is one thing that you have learned about or from marriage?
2015: Everyone needs alone time, even extroverts (he's an extrovert.)
What is your most unique trait?
2015:
I hate talking about myself. Being freaking awesome.
Me: No, really. Answer the question!!!
Tanner: Ummmmmm, my inventiveness. I always have a thousand ideas.
One quality you want your children to possess and that you will focus on teaching them?
2015: Integrity. Because the world is going to shit and we need some good people in it. You can quote on me that. (hahahaha)
What was your favorite part about the wedding?
2015: The sex afterwards. (Oh, awesome.)
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This was so fun to do and to see how similar most of his responses are. Well, at least we know he is consistent. That's one thing that I love about him.
And, just for fun, let's show my wedding video. And the slideshow that was played at our wedding. Huzzah!
Happy 2nd Anniversary, T Money. Here's to millions more!
What else do you want to know about Tanner? Any questions you would add or want to know?
I don't know about you, but 75% of the time when it's someone's birthday, I start singing 50 Cent's Birthday Song (You know the one----Go! Go! Go! Go! Go Shawty ish ya birthdaaaay, we gonna partay like ish ya birfdaaaay, we gonna sip Bacardi like ish ya birfdaaaay, cause you know we don't give a ….. cause ish ya birfdaaaay)
Oh stop. Don't even pretend like I'm the only one who still sings this on birthdays. (okay, maybe I am).
Either way, that song is genius, I tell ya. Genius!
It's almost as genius as Ciara's song (Ci-Aira!!!! This beat is automatic supersonic, hypnotic…) Don't worry, I think I get that 40% of the time. Almost every day in high school. It's cool. Except she spells it the Slut Way. #sorrynotsorry
Anyway.
Birthdays are fun. I'm always a fan.
Especially when it's my hot husband's big day.
Saturday was T Money's Birfday, and we partied. We had a fun BBQ to celebrate for him on Friday. It was such a fun evening with delicious food and some of our favorite people. We played some serious volleyball--sweating and all. Good times. My old competitiveness came back. And hey, I can still hold my own, people! Boo ya.
On Saturday, we went to our favorite restaurant in Utah Valley: Pizzeria 712. For any special occasion, Tanner and I go here. Literally the best pizza in the world. It's all natural ingredients made in a brick oven. I love the scenery, service and the whole experience. We are huge fans. You have to go try it now!
Now T is gone for 8 days and it's just me and the pup. So….I really don't know what to do with my time….
Tanner,
Thank you for being born.
Thank you for being loyal and loving, even through my many mistakes and stupid decisions.
Thank you for dealing with me through those emotional and impossible days.
Thank you for being such a hardworking student and employee, in your school work and your job.
Thank you for being willing to switch gender roles in our relationship. I am so grateful you are always willing to help around the house with dishes, laundry and cooking. You're the best.
Thank you for being so funny and outgoing. You are always making me laugh.
Thank you for seeing the good in people and being an example of optimism, when I am always being a pessimist.
Thank you for loving me, being patient with me, believing in me, always supporting me in my endeavors, and for building me up when I am down.
Thank you for being so fun and always willing to go out and do something.
Thank you for letting me post about you on my blog all of the time. heh.
Everyone wish T Money a Late Happy Bday because he's a) cute and b) awesome and c) that picture above shows how even the little kids love him. Which means he's totally lovable.
