"A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, and make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life.”
~Elizabeth Gilbert
I was in awe when I read this the other night. I began to think of how much of my life has been transformed because of some guy who I thought was going to be "the one." I've been with men where the passion was there; the love was clearly existent. I thought we were perfect for each other because we were "soul mates." But what I didn't realize then was that those certain guys had come into my life to teach me something. Their sheer ability to change my rapid heartbeat, to rile me up until I couldn't take it anymore, to get me so angry one minute, then love them uncontrollably the next, was to break down those particular walls talked about above. But she's right. They weren't meant to be next to me forever. They came into my life to break me down, then ultimately build me up.
However, I do think there are some soul mates that are destined to be by your side forever. Those soul mates are those friends who you seem to just connect with on a different level. The ones you are able to share anything with, who think the dumb decisions you make are still outrageously dumb, who roll on the ground laughing at the same joke. The particular friends who may shove you until you break, who get you so mad you just want to slap them. They break you more than anything else imaginable. But they are also more importantly the ones who will be standing at your side on your wedding day. They will be the ones crying with you when life decides to change plans (as it seems to consistently do currently).
How many of us have had people come into our lives ultimately just to change it? Soul mates, whether they have stayed in my life or not, have helped me transform.
There is something so raw, so exquisitely real, about letting go; letting go of an intimate relationship, letting go of a loved one to death, or even letting go of the past. A soul mate has taught me how to let go.
I have learned to be able to look inside myself, see my flaws, my mistakes, and use those to achieve conclusions. However, many people don’t want to go to that level. They are afraid to reach that place because of laziness, or fear, or insecurity. A soul mate has helped me find out what I truly want.
A soul mate has taught me to prioritize my life. I have realized what is important to me.
A soul mate has helped me realize what goals I have.
A soul mate has shown me what this season is about. It is about the birth of the Savior.
I have learned the power of music through the spirit from a soul mate.
This season is truly about transforming ourselves; allowing ourselves to sit down and THINK of who we are and what we truly believe. And a soul mate has led me to this.
I see people never laughing, never enjoying life. I see college kids in a major that they don't love because "it's what they SHOULD do." I have failed academically recently. I didn't pass the test to get into my major, I haven't been succeeding in my math class in the way that I know I am able. But I have a goal. And those goals will be accomplished, even if it means I keep falling down. And a soul mate, has indeed, taught me that.
Merry Christmas. ♥
May your soul mates help transform you this Christmas season.
Thank You Sierra, You have no idea how much I needed to hear JUST that. You have a wonderful way with words. Thank You.
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