For the past few years, I interviewed Tanner with these questions on our anniversary. I thought that it would be fun to ask him the exact same questions (with a few added every year!). It was so funny to see his responses. I had to probe him to get a little more in-depth responses. He's really good at having two word answers. Typical male. ;).
My responses are in parentheses.
Note: These are his responses EXACTLY. I didn't change one word.
Tell me a little bit about yourself.
2014: Mark Tanner Charlesworth. Age 23. Married. 6'3''. Incredibly Good Looking with chiseled muscles.
2015: Mark Tanner Charlesworth. My name is Tanner and I like to party. I like to do stuff outdoors.
2016: Tall. Awesome. That about sums it up. (basically...)
2017: I....like to play sports..and watch sports. (Uh, yea. A little too much, I'd say).
2018: You know me.
2017: I....like to play sports..and watch sports. (Uh, yea. A little too much, I'd say).
2018: You know me.
What is your current job?
2014: I'm in school full time during the year, but I am the Assistant Race Director for Epic Relays."
2015: The Color Run. But I'm kind of on the market, so if you know of anything, let me know! I am also a wellness advocate for Doterra. (If you need oils, let him know!!!)
2016: I knock doors and sell pest control. (Yes, he's one of those bros..)
2017: Strategic account manager at a digital marketing agency. (and he's still in school....)
2018: Strategic account manager—basically I create digital marketing strategies and implement that for clients.
What are you going to school for?
2014: I am getting my Accounting degree with a pre-dental minor, with the goal of going to Dental School. My dream school for dental is OHSU in Portland.
2015: Marketing and Business Management. (He has, clearly, changed his major and we have decided together to take a different route for his career! Only two more years of his undergraduate. We got this! Ha.)
2016: Digital Marketing (his responses are getting shorter and shorter each year...)
2017: Digital Marketing (almost there...almost there...)
2018: Still? Digital Marketing (sigh...)
2017: Digital Marketing (almost there...almost there...)
2018: Still? Digital Marketing (sigh...)
What was your first impression of Sierra (me)?
2014: I thought, 'This girl is crazy, but she's pretty.' You made me play a stupid envelope game. I didn't know anyone there. It was the most stupid game ever. (I thought the same thing about him)
2015: Who is this girl? She's a bossy pants. (hahahaha)
2016: That girl is crazy. Pretty, but seems like a lot to handle (nothing's changed, I guess.)
2017: This girl is crazy. (as he's watching a soccer game.....same answer... just shorter).
2018: She's crazy. (you'd think he be a little more creative at this point)
2017: This girl is crazy. (as he's watching a soccer game.....same answer... just shorter).
2018: She's crazy. (you'd think he be a little more creative at this point)
How many kids do you do want?
2014: No more than 4. But I am not ready for kids; a wife is enough to handle for now." (HEY!)
2015: 2 at the least, 4 at the most. I want boys and girls. One girl and one boy sounds perfect to me.
2016: 2-3. (the number is getting lower and lower the longer we are married hahah)
2017: 2-3. (he's distracted watching a soccer game so his responses are laaaame right now).
2018: 2. maybe 3. (he's praying for a boy next...Ha!)
2017: 2-3. (he's distracted watching a soccer game so his responses are laaaame right now).
2018: 2. maybe 3. (he's praying for a boy next...Ha!)
What is your favorite food?
2014: Pizza. Fire baked pizza, specifically. My favorite restaurant is Pizzeria 712 because, well, it's the most amazing pizza in the world." (Seriously…I'm drooling now just thinking about it.)
2015: Pizza and hot wings. But I'm kind of a food nerd, so my tastes vary drastically. (All he ever wants is Pizza. Always. It's so annoying.)
2016: All kinds of food! Food is glorious and makes me happy (He really is obsessed with food. Good thing he is skinny. Ha!)
2017: Mmmmm pizza and hot wings.
2018: Mmmm pizza, tacos, and hot wings. (Yep. same response).
2017: Mmmmm pizza and hot wings.
2018: Mmmm pizza, tacos, and hot wings. (Yep. same response).
What do you fear the most?
2014: Bees. F*** Bees. (It's the funniest thing in the world. He will jump off cliffs, go bungee jumping, but he sees a Bee and FREAKS).
2015: Bees. F Bees. (LITERALLY THE EXACT SAME RESPONSE AS LAST YEAR. He hates them so bad. It's so funny.)
2016: Bees. Always and forever bees. (hahahahahaha kills me. Every time)
2017: Is and always will be, BEES. I hate bees.
Me: Any fears about life or like..real stuff?
Him: No. Everything will work out in life. (Eye roll... pessimist on my end).
2018: Always bees.
Me: Anything else, like, maybe, deeper?
Him: Nope.
2017: Is and always will be, BEES. I hate bees.
Me: Any fears about life or like..real stuff?
Him: No. Everything will work out in life. (Eye roll... pessimist on my end).
2018: Always bees.
Me: Anything else, like, maybe, deeper?
Him: Nope.
What are your 5 favorite hobbies?
2014: Rock climbing, fishing, watching/playing sports, reading, playing music.
2015: Fishing, rock climbing, hunting, playing sports, watching sports. (Ha. Seems familiar.)
2016: fishing, hunting, rock climbing, sports, I find a new hobby every week (Yes. Yes he does...)
2017: playing sports, fishing, hunting, watching sports, and traveling with my wife. (Hey! We got one new hobby in there!).
2018:
2017: playing sports, fishing, hunting, watching sports, and traveling with my wife. (Hey! We got one new hobby in there!).
2018:
What is your dream vacation and why?
2014: "I have a lot of dream vacations, right now it's Thailand because I want to hold a tiger. And they have really good rock climbing."
2015: Croatia. No, I don't know. Alaska. So I can shoot a freaking big bear.
2016: Alaska in the summer because of bears, fishing, Denali and I really want to fly fish for salmon (He and I both have that travel bug. It's a problem).
2017: Alaska. Fishing in Alaska. I have always wanted see it and catch really big salmon.
2018:
2017: Alaska. Fishing in Alaska. I have always wanted see it and catch really big salmon.
2018:
Describe yourself in 5 adjectives.
2014: Loud, Energetic, Awesome, Intelligent, Athletic. "(He could make a list of fifteen, cocky son of a….. I could add some words, too…)
2015: Awesome, Energetic, Funny, Cool, The Coolest. (Still humble…)
2016: fun, energetic, patient, athletic, nonjudgmental (I added the last two! Haha).
2017: I hate this question. Confident, easygoing, sociable, I can't think of anything else. You pick. (Again...still watching the soccer game).
2018: tired, fun, athletic, hardworking, sometimes nice. (Sometimes nice hahaha. I like how tired is in there now. Welcome to adulthood).
What is your favorite movie of all time and why?
2014: Top Gun. Because my grandpa was a fighter pilot for the Navy. I watched it so much as a little kid, I wore the VHS out."(Plus he looks exactly like Iceman/Val Kilmer! See here. It's creepy.)
2015: Top Gun. Because my grandpa was a fighter pilot so I grew up watching it. (haha exact same answer.)
2016: Do you even need to ask? Top Gun (I wonder if this will ever change...)
2017: Top Gun.
2017: Top Gun.
2018: Top Gun. Stop asking this question. (maybe I'll start asking his second favorite movie of the year...)
Can you give me a mock session of how you would discuss sex education when you have a child?
2014: I will give my sons the same advice my father gave me: 'Keep the pecker in the pants, boy.' My daughters will wear chastity belts. That's it. Sierra can do the rest. (Awesome. Thanks, babe.)
2015: Keep the pecker in the pants. [Smiles. Shrugs.] And, it would depend on the child. (Clearly he needs to expand his sex education knowledge and vocabulary.)
2016: Just don't be stupid. Keep the pecker in the pants and then there are no problems. (eye roll. I will be doing the sex ed talk apparently. He says the same thing every year.)
Me: What if it's a girl?
T: That one will go a lot different. And my wife can handle most of that one (he's dumb. The father needs to talk to the daughter too!!). I would just tell her to respect her body and make sure the guys she dates does the same.
2017: Don't do it. But if you are, at least put a condom on. (lovely).
2018: mmm don’t do it. It’s not worth it. But if you insist, be smart and use protection.
If you won the lottery, what are the first three things you would do/buy?
2014:
1. Build a house with land.
2. Buy a tiger and/or leopard…maybe some wolves (he is grinning at me right now)
3. Live off of the interest and not let anyone know I was rich. My kids will earn their keep.
2015
1. Pay off my house.
2. Start a french fry food truck business (he is quite determined to do this).
3. Put away the rest.
2016:
1. Pay off my house.
2. Buy a 2015 VW tai golf sports ago.
3. The rest save and invest. And do some traveling.
2017:
1. Pay off my house.
2. Pay off my truck.
3. Invest and live off the interest.
(Ha! Sounds familiar).
2018:
1. pay off house2. pay off truck—buy a new truck
3. take a trip with my wife. (My eye roll).
If your house was on fire and you had a chance to grab only five things before leaving, they would be…
2014: My wife, my dog, my guns, my guitars, and my laptop.
2015: My wife because she is going to be passed out panicking (Rude! But true), Saylor the dog would get herself (she would follow us out.) (Again, true.) So I would get my guns, my laptop…that's kind of all I would grab. There's not enough time to grab five things.
2016: Assuming my wife is capable of getting herself out... (funny)... I would get my laptop, my guns, my guitars. And that's a lot so that's probably it (I think we all know his favorite things in the house at this point).
2017: guns, guitars, the dog...everything else is in the garage....
2018: my dog, my guns, I don’t need anything else, really. I mean, assuming you’re safe. Everything is replaceable.
If you believed in reincarnation, what would you come back as?
2014: That's simple…my spirit animal clearly is a Jaguar." (I am dying right now. What a nerd).
2015: A freaking awesome big cat like a lion or a leopard. (He loves big cats.)
2016: Jungle cat. Like a bad ass jungle cat. (oh, dear.)
2017: I don't know, that's a weird question. I don't believe in reincarnation.
Me: IF you believed...
Tanner: But I don't believe in it.
Me: Just answer the question!
Tanner: A pillow so I can just sleep.
Me: uh, it has to be an animal.
Tanner: A lion so I could just take a nap and eat.
2018: A badass big cat. A tiger. (The cat has to be badass, though).
2017: I don't know, that's a weird question. I don't believe in reincarnation.
Me: IF you believed...
Tanner: But I don't believe in it.
Me: Just answer the question!
Tanner: A pillow so I can just sleep.
Me: uh, it has to be an animal.
Tanner: A lion so I could just take a nap and eat.
2018: A badass big cat. A tiger. (The cat has to be badass, though).
One of the best decisions you have ever made? (besides marrying me ;) )
2014: The haircut I got today. Just kidding. Marrying my wife. That's a trick question. I can't say anything else, but I wouldn't say anything else. Cause I loooooove you (He sang that to me. awwww).
2015: Um…moving to Portland. Because I would never have met my wife if I didn't move there.
2016: Going to school even though I hate it.
2017: Buying my new truck (oh, geez).
2018: Buying my truck. *my eye roll*. What! It makes me so happy! (It really does, you guys. It's kind of sad).
2017: Buying my new truck (oh, geez).
2018: Buying my truck. *my eye roll*. What! It makes me so happy! (It really does, you guys. It's kind of sad).
2015 added questions...
What is one thing that you have learned about or from marriage?
2015: Everyone needs alone time, even extroverts (he's an extrovert.)
2016: Make your expectations clear so that your partners knows what to expect. It is much easier to not let someone down if they have a clear idea of your expectations.
2017: Communicate. It's important.
2018: It's all about expectations and communicating those expectations.
2017: Communicate. It's important.
2018: It's all about expectations and communicating those expectations.
What is your most unique trait?
2015: I hate talking about myself. Being freaking awesome.
Me: No, really. Answer the question!!!
Tanner: Ummmmmm, my inventiveness. I always have a thousand ideas.
2016: I'm surprisingly good at remaking old furniture and solving puzzles. (He really is!).
2017: I have really tiny ears. (It's true!! So tiny!).
2018: I don't know. I'm too tired to answer these questions and I haven't eaten. I'm pretty good at most stuff.
2017: I have really tiny ears. (It's true!! So tiny!).
2018: I don't know. I'm too tired to answer these questions and I haven't eaten. I'm pretty good at most stuff.
One quality you want your children to possess and that you will focus on teaching them?
2015: Integrity. Because the world is going to shit and we need some good people in it. You can quote on me that. (hahahaha)
2016: Honesty.
2017: Hard work.
2018: Respect. I'm tired of little brat kids. (seriously...)
2017: Hard work.
2018: Respect. I'm tired of little brat kids. (seriously...)
What was your favorite part about our wedding?
2015: The sex afterwards. (Oh, awesome.)
2016: Our first dance. You looked so pretty and it was just the two of us and nothing else mattered. (awwwww!!)
2017: I don't know. That was 4 years ago. Being married to you...? (Real deep).
2017: I don't know. That was 4 years ago. Being married to you...? (Real deep).
2018: Just feeling happy and knowing I married the right person.
2016 added questions....
What piece of advice would you give "newlyweds?"
2016: It's okay to argue as long as you're willing to say sorry and work to fix the issues. (so true!)
2017: Marriage is not what it seems to be on instagram. it is not easy. You have to work at it.
2018: If you think you know you're spouse..you're wrong! Marriage is worth the risk, but you HAVE TO COMMUNICATE (can you tell he's learning this?! Hahah)
What trait do you think that you and I have most in common?
2016: The love of travel and the desire to do what's right (I would agree!).
2017: We both really like to travel (same as last year! Ha).
2018: Spontaneity.2017 added questions..
What is your favorite memory of us having together?
2017: Spending the entire month of July 2016 in Hawaii. It was the best thing ever. (Ugh, it really was! I miss it).
2018: Spending a month in Maui. (Still one of my favorite memories too!)
Where is one place you would like to travel together as a couple? Why?
2017: Portugal. Because Lisbon has really good seafood and it's a really cool stuff to see and it's really romantical (hehe), but not as cliche as Paris.
2018: Croatia. It looks cool.
2018 added questions...
Why are you excited to have a girl?
Girls are helpful. Boys are not. So it will be nice to have a girl first. (He knows this because he's the oldest of six...and was not helpful. Ha!)
What is a personality trait of yours that you wish you could change?
I have a loud voice that carries and it's annoying.
This is so fun to do every year! Man, that guy changes his mind...except his favorite movie and food ;)
And, just for fun, let's show my wedding video and the slideshow that was played at our wedding. Huzzah!